On the cusp of my 45th birthday, I made the mistake of looking in the mirror. It wasn’t the bathroom mirror, it was a photo I had from graduate school. I looked at myself 20 years ago and had a startling and clear epiphany. It wasn’t a happy moment. It was a terribly sad moment. It was so sad that I involuntarily burst into tears, something I haven’t done since the dark days of my divorce.

I looked at the photo and came to the conclusion that I had made a real mess of my life.

 
I see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section, so I thought I'd take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven't figured it out.

What happened to all the nice guys?

The answer is simple: you did.

Misandry on Madison Avenue

by Marc H. Rudov

Moronizing & Marginalizing Men

Your spellchecker doesn’t recognize misandry, the hatred of men, because the developers at Microsoft, when creating Word, weren’t conscious of it. But, they sure knew about misogyny, right? HR sensitivity programs ensured that. Bashing women is so verboten in Corporate America that people can lose their jobs over it. Excoriating men, on the other hand, is so infused -- and apparently profitable -- that, like breathing, most people accept it without question. And, nowhere is misandry practiced more than on Madison Avenue, the advertising capital of the world, the source of the male-bashing TV commercial.

Today’s TV spots are moronizing and marginalizing men, with impunity. Why do they persist? Quite simply, most Americans -- including a lot of self-hating men -- approve. The genesis of every TV campaign begins by matching an advertiser’s sales objectives with an assumption about the zeitgeist. The advertiser bets that a TV campaign’s message will resonate with its targeted customers, who, hopefully, will respond by purchasing the promoted products or services. When earning my MBA at Boston University, I obviously missed the lecture on how to boost revenues of cameras and mutual funds by alienating men and fathers.

by Paul Parmenter

Some serious thoughts here, Bob. But I have considerable doubts that a formally constituted Men’s Nation, or whatever structure you might propose, would necessarily work.

Once it was set up, it would immediately be under attack and vulnerable because it would constitute a target. The weakness of any formal organisation is its very formality. If it has a head, then cutting off the head kills the organisation. If it has specific funding, then cutting off the funding has the same effect. If it relies on meetings, then breaking up the meetings can stifle its growth. History is full of examples. Look at how easy it became to destroy the original F4J movement in the UK. All it took was a (probably bogus and very weak) claim in a misandric newspaper, and the structure collapsed overnight. Every structure has its weakest point, and pressure exerted on that weak point brings the whole thing down.

I suggest that a better future lies in individual men taking control of their own lives.

Rallying Boys to a 'Dangerous' Standard of Normalcy

By Ross Mackenzie

After two generations of concern scrupulously focused on girls — their education in all its many manifestations, their alleged victimization by male dominance, their brain development, their sorrows and strengths and even the word employed to describe them (are they not, after all, young women?) — boys are coming in for new attention.

Applause, please. Yet at this late hour, with masculinity so politically incorrect, the task at hand is Augean.

Feminism vs. Male Sexuality

By Kevin Biomech

Males in our culture are damned. Not because of what we do, or even what we did or thought, but because we are male. It has become de rigeur to bash all things male, so much so that you might even find yourself believing it. In particular, feminists like to damn our sexuality. Not because they find any good reason, but because it's our biggest weakness as well as our greatest strength. Enemies always look for the loosest armour or the weakest walls.

Feminist 'Justice' at Duke

by Stephen Baskerville

Posted: 10/18/2007

The falsely-accused Duke University lacrosse players are suing the city of Durham and prosecutor Michael Nifong for malicious prosecution, claiming “one of the most chilling episodes of premeditated police, prosecutorial, and scientific misconduct in modern American history.” In fact, their ordeal was nothing out of the ordinary.

Few Americans realize how extensively our criminal justice system has been corrupted by leftist ideology. It has now reached the point where the criminals are prosecuting law-abiding citizens.

Carey Roberts

Women Who Batter, Proudly

October 5, 2007 at 6:10 am

Chivalrous men resist the image, but it’s a problem that has become so pervasive that we must summon up the courage to face it – an epidemic of women who pummel their husbands and boyfriends.

The real truth behind the feminist movement & the Domestic Violence figures they manipulate.

From the comments section of an article in The Scotsman on women being denied legal aid to deal with abusive partners.

Perhaps out of all of its failings this Government they more than any in history has been to undermine the traditional family, the fundamental building block of any civilised society.

by Paul Coughlin, contributing Writer, Author, Speaker

While returning from teaching at an Iron Sharpens Iron men’s conference in Hartford, CT last weekend, I chuckled out loud while on the long plane ride home back to the West Coast. I recounted in my mind some of the hilarious comments men made during the question and answer portion of my seminar about how important emotional engagement is today in marriage.

by zenpriest

About 40 years ago, a few women were allowed to become so out of control with their mental illness and megalomania, that they declared men and maleness in general to be "broken" and called upon women in general to "fix" them. Of course, we all know that there is nothing women like more than fixing men, so millions of women enthusiastically signed on.

The problem was that these women didn't know jack shit about what maleness was about or what men or men's world was really like - they simply declared men to be defective females and set about changing males into females, and coincidentally changing females into males.

Just like any marxists, no matter how many times their grand experiments failed, they blamed the victims of those experiments instead of their own stupid ideas.

by zenpriest

The baffling lack of unity and cohesiveness among men which has kept us from mustering a coherent response to feminidiocy has been sad and frustrating, but at this point must simply be considered a condition of the environment in which we have to fight this war. What I see emerging is a relatively spontaneous, not at all organized, generalized change in the behavior and choices of men - the marriage boycott being one example, the boycott of institutions of higher Indoctrination being another.

It is too bad that the whole Hitler/Nazi analogy has been so overused, because next to Machiavelli, Hitler probably understood the mechanisms of power better than anyone else in history.

The fundamental strategy was "telling the BIG LIE" - something outrageously untrue, but repeated enough times that people either begin to believe it, or at least become afraid to let anyone know that they don't.

Feminists have told millions of "BIG LIES" about men - about Domestic Violence, Rape, "Glass Ceilings", "the Patriarchy", etc, etc, etc, yadda, yadda, yadda, ad nauseum.

"Political Correctness" has made it a near crime to even challenge the BIG LIES™.

by Voodoojock

by Voodoojock

The general population doesn't have any idea just how big a negative impact Vietnam had on the men of that generation. And we're still feeling those effects today.

Take Back the Campus
4/17/2001

Are you tired of male-bashing and victimology?
Have you had your fill of feminist "Ms./Information"?
Have you been misled by factually challenged professors?

By Lisa Lipshires

Seven years ago, a client of Massachusetts psychologist Marcia Turner said something that shocked her. The woman, who had been sexually abused throughout her own childhood and was living in a house with other adults and their children, said, "The little three-year-old girl in my household is coming on to me, and wants me to have sex with her. I think I will, because I know that I will be gentle and kind to her, and it's inevitable that she is going to be abused."

Although Turner had previously counseled male sex offenders, she had never encountered a woman who wanted to sexually abuse a child. Alarmed, she consulted other therapists, but none had ever encountered -- or even heard of -- female sex offenders. Turner realized that "this is something we need to look at," and decided to make female perpetrators of child sexual abuse the focus of her practice.

from The Boys Project

For every 100 girls that are conceived 115 boys are conceived.
http://www.wirednewyork.com/forum/archive/index.php/t-3840.html

For every 100 girl babies born there are 105 boy babies born.
http://www.census.gov/prod/2005pubs/06statab/vitstat.pdf

Single, custodial fathers are men who have accepted the primary responsibility of rearing their children (having sole custody a minimum of 5 days a week, on average). While much public and research attention has been paid to single, custodial mothers over the years, relatively little attention, of any kind, has focused on single, custodial fathers. In order to gain a more informed understanding about the diversity of the American family, the following overview of single, custodial fathers is presented.

On Men's Rights and Issues
December 20, 2003
by Paul C. Robbins, Ph.D.

Like many men, I came reluctantly to men's rights and issues. I originally felt some sympathy for feminists, believing they meant what they said about "equality." They didn't, of course, and I soon had my doubts about some of their other claims.

Mon, December 27, 2004
It's all about revenge, not equality
By Lydia Lovric -- Winnipeg Sun

One of the biggest lies perpetuated by modern-day feminists is the contention that feminism is about equality. Feminists aren't interested in equality. What they want is revenge.

Divorce Self Defense 101
January 5, 2004
by Pete Jensen

Once again I have read of some poor sod being dragged into the quagmire of family court. For the sake of men who have been through it, I will spare the painful details. Rest assured it is a classic case. To the question, “What do you think he can do about it?” I can only answer “Probably not a damn thing. He’s more than likely screwed.”

Welcome to Amerika. I only wish the Men’s Movement’s best recruiting target wasn’t men who realized that it could indeed happen to them after all.